On the surface, Christmas is presented as a ‘magical time’, and of course it can be, but for many of us it is not so effortless. There may be family tensions, expectations, difficult memories, disillusionment and much more besides. Often, without realising it, we ask a lot of the person that is most important to us in a way we don’t for the rest of the year. Below is a form to sign up for 12 messages carefully crafted to nudge you to take care of this person in a way that can be very difficult consistently.